Revolving Friends

We could have the same husband, same kids, same house, same job and same car for 10 years straight, yet make or lose dozens of friends in that time.
I am lucky to have had the same man in my life for 11 years who I consider my best friend. As well as a couple close friends that have stuck around since highschool.
The friends I have lost were for reasons both mine and theirs. And we may even have different perspectives on whose fault it was.
For instance it is your choice to cut ties with a friend you've had for years due to their life choices you don't agree with.
Maybe you see their ways as disrespectful, or hurtful to those they love.
Maybe you have become unable to relate to them or understand their choices.
Yet their perspective may be that we are being harsh, not understanding of their situations or not a true friend for leaving the friendship due to things that did not directly affect me.
But sometimes we have to make the choice to remove that negativity from our lives. That doesn't mean we don't appreciate who they were during the time we were friends. I always cherish good memories, but when you begin to view someone negatively because of their actions, you must realize you cannot fix people.
You can only fix the effect they have on you, and sometimes that means eliminating them from your life.
I do not take for granted the ones who have proven they will always stick by my side.
I've never been quick with words, and I'd rather not say anything at all than say something I don't mean while emotions are present.
I don't keep from saying how I feel, but I care a lot about the people who care about me and words can hurt just as bad as actions.
So, remember, friends will always revolve, cherish the ones that are here RIGHT now. Don't allow friends to drag you or your life down, that's not a friend.
There are better friends out there who want to lift you up.
Just like relationships, some friends just aren't meant to be friends no matter how hard you want it to work out or because of the history you have already created with them.